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Spirit Day

Fri Oct 19, 2012, 10:11 AM
Growing up, I was one of those annoying kids who was popular, talented at music & art and passed all my exams without studying, teachers pet, etc. I was forever in the local press for winning prizes for playing in various musical events & was lucky enough to win a scholarship to send me to a specialist music school for gifted children on the weekends.  In the midst of all of this however, I was going through a particularly nasty time with a group of local kids who taunted me about my family constantly.

I wasn't brought up with my natural family and didn't find out about this until I was 14. Most of the local kids knew all about this and knew who my "real" Mum was because she went to school with their parents. Sounds like a soap opera, I know -- and sure it was at the time . I don't mean to be flippant about it, it's taken me 26 years to put it into a comfortable perspective. At the time though, it took me on a journey of self harming, eating disorders, risk taking behaviour and abusive relationships. Not to mention all sorts of questionable haircuts, clothing and music such as The Cure, The Smiths and Leonard Cohen...

Thankfully, I got through those years. My experiences have allowed me to empathise with people in situations of trauma and crisis, and empowered me as an adult to speak out and encourage others to do the same. I have learned the value of reflection and forgiveness, and remind myself that things really do get better, even when you feel like the whole world is against you. Bullying is not exclusive to your childhood years, and I think society is quick to dismiss this fact.

I think everyone has a story about being bullied. This means we can all empathise with others who are going through tough times. If you don't know how to recognise Spirit Day, take time out of your usual routine to reflect upon your own life and the way you can help others with the lessons you have learned. At the very least, give your smile to someone who doesn't have one. You'll find it's contagious and you may just turn someone's life around by doing so.

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makepictures Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2012
Respect.
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kOfOtO Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2012
I still listen to The Smiths, The Cure and Laughing Len! When's the band practising/competing again?
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fourteenthstar Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2012
We have another one in a few weeks though, same venue, I'll send you details :)
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fourteenthstar Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2012
Tonight is the concert!
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kOfOtO Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2012
I'm working today and tomorrow, then free :-)
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Kjherstin Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2012
It is weird how even in adult life people can get bullied. At least if it happened to you in your youth, it can help you turn things around in adult life. I was bitched at while working at Europcar at Faro airport to the point they wanted to fire me due to all these stupid soap operas they were making on my behalf. Truth be told, they were just jealous of me because I was an English native speaker. There is always something about the person who bullies, they are the problem not us. I am superior to all that, pity not everyone has that strength. If only we could rid society of these cowards.
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:heart: thank you for sharing *
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MiloticScale Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012
:hug: :)
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:bulletpurple: Happy Spirit Day! :bulletpurple:
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electricjonny Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
This was the best spirit day article I've read. Thanks :)
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AnnaKirsten Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012   General Artist
It's so amazing to read stories like this one. My daughter would be able to empathize with you in almost every sense as she went through the same scenarios you mention in her attempts to validate her own existence which, unbeknown to me, had been a very isolated and lonely one in her early childhood years, partly because she longed for a brother or sister so much it ached. She was bullied until she became the bully and then she became a serious drug addict and self-harmer. 8 years ago she finally turned her own life around and she is now a qualified psychotherapist and drugs intervention counsellor who is like you, helping the similarly vulnerable to find a better course for their own lives.

It warms my heart that you felt able to freely share your story, and to know that you have that same empathy for others. As for me, I do what I can under the disadvantage of being quite physically disabled these days.

I wish you every blessing. :hug:
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fonecard Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012
In 1965, my father accepted a company transfer from New Jersey to Covina...a relatively small city in Southern California which turned out to be much more conservative than where we had lived (and long before I even *knew* the meaning of that word).

I was overweight (5'4", 140 lbs) which didn't help but, being Jewish proved to be much more problematic. The harassment started in 7th grade with a couple of girls chasing me (NOT for the right reasons!) and a well-placed knee into my right thigh while sitting at my desk in English class.

It persisted through my junior year in high school with "anonymous" calls to our house saying that they were the Gestapo and they were going to burn our house down.

My younger brother, too, got into a fight in the locker room after gym when a kid threw a nickel onto the floor and said, "Go get it, Jew!" As my brother had already been subjected to bullying (simply because he was my brother), the previous scrapes he'd gotten into prepared him well. Only self-restraint kept him from smashing the kid's face into the hard concrete floor.

As you can tell, the details of these incidents are still painfully clear so, whenever I hear about bullying of any kind...it gets me quite upset.

Having said that...these memories also helped me teach my daughter to be aware of it...and to not engage in some of the typical middle and high school teasing and bullying shenanigans.

I'm happy to report that she learned her lessons well!!

Thanx for posting this, Fiona! The damage to kids who get bullied canNOT be understated and must be stopped!!

~Ric
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pvalentega Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012  Professional Photographer
Thanks so much for sharing!
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Inspiring indeed :heart: thank you for sharing!
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Astrikos Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
Inspiring and wonderful.

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ETSChannel Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012  Student Digital Artist
i do that everyday :)
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